Bdsm principles & dom-sub exploration

WITH

OM RUPANI



Who is this course for?

Beginners welcome!

  • This course does not require any prerequisites. 

  • You don’t need to know anything about BDSM first to take this course. 

  • This course will train you from the ground up.

&…

This an intense course!

Over the course of the 7 days, we are going to be exploring many spicy and intense topics. 

This is going to be a high-energy course! 

  • Expect your system and your emotions to move. 

  • Expect to be triggered at least once, if not more during this course. 

  • Expect your resistance, shame, past wounding to surface.

  • Please make sure you feel resourced enough to take this week-long journey

Aside from all of the above, this is an intense investigation into our Eros, our taboos, our hidden and unexplored desires.

This course will progress through more and more intense and deep topics as the week advances.  Following is a progression chart of topics and explorations we will cover in class.  *PLEASE NOTE : We may not be able to get to all of them.  We will have a bit more material at hand than time, even with the week-long container.


Beginning level explorations

Embodying Your Dominant & submissive archetypes

Containment

Rope Bondage

Impact Play / Spanking Training

Floggers

Paddles, Canes & Straps

Public Display. Exhibitionism.


INtermediate explorations

Pain Play

Pain + Pleasure

Humiliation Play

Objectification

Exclusion Play & Jealousy Play

Parent-child play

Consensual Cuckholding


Advanced explorations

Degradation Play

Punishment Scenes

Consensual Non-Consent Scenes

From Scene Play to Lifestyle Transitions

Ownership dynamics

Master-slave dynamics


DOING THE COURsE SINGLY OR AS A COUPLE

You can take this course singly. 

You can come with a partner.  If you are coming with a partner, please read the COUPLES GUIDELINE below.

Students will partner with each other for scenes and exercises.

Couples are welcome to partner only with each other during scenes and exercises, but this is not recommended.  From years of teaching and observing, my perception is that couples learn better and do better when they let each other partner and explore with others.  Often times, the current and past tensions in the coupledom become obstacles towards them learning something new together.


MAN-WOMAN RELATING PIECES

BDSM itself transcends sexual preferences and gender.  Most of my teachers and mentors in this realm have been Queer & Gay.  I’m tremendously grateful to all of them.  Without their teachings and their life explorations, I would not be able to do what I do.

I myself am a straight man.  I’ve been in a long-term partnership with my woman for 35 years now!  Man-woman relating and how to make it work and thrive is an even bigger area of exploration for me than BDSM!

I’m passionate about studying and teaching what makes man-woman relating work.  And I have discovered that many principles from BDSM and from Dom-sub dynamics carry over into Man-woman relating.  I believe that many things that make a Dom great are what make a Man great to a woman in a straight relationship.  And what makes a submissive great is very parallel to the feminine qualities that straight men are longing for in their woman partners.

Throughout our exploration,  I will point out these parallels between Dom-sub and straight Man-woman relating and masteries.  To that degree, this course is hetro-normative.  Please be aware of it, and make sure I am the correct teacher for you in this exploration. 

There are many amazing teachers that operate and teach primarily in a non-hetro-normative context.   They may be a better fit for you. Please seek them out.  They may be able to serve you better.  One teacher I can recommend highly in this category is Barbara Carellas.


SAFE WORDS, BOUNDARIES & PERSONAL RESPONSIBILITY

You are encouraged to always exercise your active consent, your boundaries and your safe words throughout this course container. 

You are always free to sit out an exercise or a scene. 

You can even decide to step out of an exercise or scene mid-way. Don’t worry about your exercise or scene partner. We have assistants who can step in.

You will always be asked to clearly express your desires and boundaries for each scene that you design and carry out.

You are ultimately responsible for speaking and expressing your boundaries throughout the class container.


THIS IS NOT A TRAUMA HEALING COURSE!

I don’t have any training in trauma healing.  This is not a trauma healing container.

As intense as this exploration can get, the encouragement in this container is that it be done in the context of PLAY.  Play to the degree you want.  Play as intensely as you can handle.  Have fun.  Discover new things about yourself.  Have some fun scenes.  Push some fun edges.

There is room in the BDSM scene space for emotions to arise, for catharsis to happen, for tears and snot and orgasms and laughter.  But the responsibility for your process rests squarely on you!  You are ultimately in charge of your self-care, your grounding and your integration.


OM IS NOT EVERYBODY’S CUP OF TEA!

I have a particularly abrasive style of engaging and teaching. 

I speak bluntly. 

I’m confrontational. 

I am an anti-feminist. 

I don’t subscribe to Patriarchy Theory or Toxic Masculinity. 

I don’t subscribe to a whole lot of woke ideology in our current culture.


PLEASE DO NOT SIGN UP FOR MY COURSE IF YOU DON’T ALREADY KNOW WHO I AM!

It will save both of us a lot of misery! 

I have a book.  I have podcasts.  I write essays.  I have a whole lot of free content on my website at OmRupani.com.  Check me out. 

Please do not come into my class unless you are already familiar with my tone and my ideas and you want even more of me.  Otherwise, it’s going to be a miserable week for both of us.


COUPLES GUIDELINES

Please come into the course only if you are in a friendly and loving space with each other.

Please resolve any current fights and conflicts before entering the class container.

Please have clear and detailed conversations about your boundaries for the course container.

Please be a stand for each other’s pleasure and expansion.

Please have agreements in place for how to deal with tensions if and when they arise during the week.

Please do not involve or pull in other people into your drama and tension.


UPCOMING 7-day RETREATS:

The fees includes room and board


CLASS SUPPLIES

REQUIRED SUPPLIES:

Bindfold.

Collar.  Leash.

Bondage Rope - 2 pieces, 25feet/8meters; 2 pieces, 15feet/5meters

A Couple of Floggers.

Personal Lube & Safe Sex Supplies

Outfits To Embody Your Dom and sub Archetypes.

OPTIONAL SUPPLIES:

Other Impact Toys : Cane, Paddles, Straps, etc.

Additional Floggers - A Heavier flogger, A Stingy Flogger

Sensation Play Tools : Pinwheel, Fur Glove, Talons, Non-Cutting Knives, etc.

Ball-Gag

Nipple Clamps / Household Clothes Pins

ADVANCED SUPPLIES:

Butt Plugs

Strap-On

Body-Dripping Candles

Body Writing Markers.