She is not merely a lover.  She is not merely an ornament.

She is the rare woman who becomes indispensable —

the mirror, the muse, the rest, the fire —

the Companion.

Sex is a powerful doorway into a man’s heart and into his energies, but it is not the destination.

Powerful men have plenty of access to sex — to sex, to attention, even admiration when they are famous.  Yet, what so many of such men lack in their life is a companion who can meet them beyond the man’s public persona, beyond the presentational self that these men necessarily have to show to the world.

What such men are often longing for is someone who might receive them in all of their humanity - someone who might see them in the fullness and complexity of their whole masculine nature without judgement, and elevate them further into their greatness.

Part of this training is certainly about bringing beauty into a man’s life, but this isn’t about just being ornamental as a woman; it’s about becoming indispensable!

GETTING THE BEST OUT OF HIM

You have a tremendous power to inspire and uplift the masculine spirit.  Women can bring out the worst in men.  And the right woman skilled in the arts can also bring out the best in a man.  She can help him rise beyond what even he thinks he is capable of.

If the man is lucky, he finds a Wife who can perform this function in his life.  Just as often, this task falls on to a great Courtesan.

UNDERSTANDING MEN

To serve men, you have to understand men.  You have to be curious about what makes men tick.  You have to be able to perceive them underneath and beyond what they are showing you on the surface.

These hidden parts of men, we keep hidden.  These parts are vulnerable.  Powerful men especially are not keen to display their susceptible underbelly — and with good reason.  In their daily lives, these men’s lives are a battleground.  It behooves them to be imposing and intimidating in their work and social interactions.

The fight for hierarchy is a constant in men’s world.  Your job as a great courtesan is to provide a sanctuary away from that.  But for you to be able to do that, you need to understand what the man is not showing you.  In this training, we will delve deeper into what lies beneath men’s surface.

MAKE HIM BIGGER.  MAKE HIM GREAT!

How do you leave a man?  How does a man feel when he is leaving you?  Does he feel bigger or smaller?  Does he feel like a Giant when walking out your door and out your bed?  How does he carry the memory of you an hour or a day after he has last seen you?  What is it about you that brings him back to you?

Learn the art of making a man’s spirit bigger, and he will always come back to you.  That is a nutrient he cannot afford to be without.

PRIVATE COMPANION

Nourish him with your Sex.

Nourish him with your Femininity.

Be his ‘Pensieve’.

Be his Rest.

Be the banquet where he comes to restore himself.  Every bit of you — your woman, your lover, your dominatrix — serve him with it, pour yourself into him.

Be the person he can trust to reveal his worries too.  Most powerful men I know have to protect even their wives and family members from the burdens they are carrying.  Nor are such men inclined to unburden themselves on the therapist’s couch.  If you can hold the correct field for him, and if you prove yourself trustworthy enough, you could be his Pensieve — this was the device in Harry Potter into which Dumbledore stores his worrisome thoughts so he can get them out of his own head.  A great courtesan is a better confidant to such men than anybody else in the man’s life. 

PUBLIC COMPANION

A Courtesan must be unshakably grounded in her self.  She cannot compete with other women in his orbit (wives, lovers, even admirers - if the man is famous).  She must stand apart in her radiating sovereignty.

• The social circles that such men move in are often electrified and scrutinized.  They are full of prying eyes and prying photographers and journalists.  To accompany such a man into the world and to remain an asset to him as his companion, the Courtesan must be supremely self-possessed.

• She must look like she belongs, no matter what room she is in.  Beyond that, she should look like she is a prize, even next to this man.  Other women should look at her with admiration.  Other men should eye her with desire and want an introduction.  Everyone around should compliment the man for having found such a lovely creature to be by his side.

• When the courtesan speaks and engages, the favorable impression of her should only grow and multiply.  She should be interesting, not just interested.  She should be able to move with ease in the world of politics, art, philosophy, history and current events.

BEAUTY & RITUAL

These are the men of whom people often say, ‘What do you give a man who has everything?’  These men may have money and property, but they actually don’t always have beauty.  Certainly not the kind of beauty that a Courtesan can bring into a man’s life.

A great Courtesan brings beauty and eros into the mundane: the way she pours wine, places her hand, laughs at just the right moment, or even mocks the seriousness of the moment to break the tension.  Her body-language is masterful — soft eyes, subtle touch, cadence of voice.

Her everyday rituals infuse the space with sensuality and her femininity.

LEVITY & CELEBRATION

A light touch is worth gold.  Sometimes the lives of these men are so weighed by responsibility, sometimes their worry levels are so high, that the biggest thing they cannot create for themselves is levity and celebration.

A great courtesan knows how to draw a man out of himself, out of his doldrums, out of his burdens — even if for a short interlude.  Being able to do so, she serves such men to return to their work refreshed and inspired.