dom training for men
(& submissive training for their women)
A COUPLES’ RETREAT!
A 7-DAY TRAINING RETREAT FOR COUPLES
with OM RUPANI
THE PREMISE
Dominance and submission is not about kink. It is not about BDSM. It is not about power games.
Dominance & submission is about creating a Leadership - Followership dynamic between the two people.
For this Leadership - Followership dynamic to be functional, it needs to be mutually beneficial for both people involved. It needs to be RECIPROCAL. Both people should feel that their lives are better and more fulfilling when occupying these roles of leadership and followership, or Dominance & submission, in their relationship.
Most couples today are ending up in relational difficulty not because they lack love — but because they have confused, or entirely abandoned, their Leadership - Followership roles — both in their life-relating, as well as in their Eros.
Men have been trained to shrink, to become watery, to not lead or dominate. Women have been trained to carry what was never theirs to carry. The result is a kind of polarity collapse: two people not being true to their nature, not carrying the correct weight of their relationship, and showing up in a way that they are actually not able to serve and fulfill their partners.
The longer men and women stay in this maladapted, dysfunctional energetics with each other, the more miserable and unfulfilling their relationship gets. Men feel they can’t win their women. Women lose desire and respect for their men. It’s pretty much a shit-show.
This course will unapologetically prompt men to Lead and Dominate their women in ways that benefits their women — both romantically and erotically. And this course will unapologetically prompt women to step into their gracious submission and receptivity with their Men and be supportive of their man’s Dominance and leadership.
THE ARCHITECTURE OF THE WEEK
50% of our class will focus on RELATIONAL DOMINANCE-SUBMISSION
50% of our class will focus on EROTIC DOMINANCE-SUBMISSION (BDSM)
We will also take a little bit of time each day to practice SPIRITUAL SUBMISSION (for everyone!)
SPIRITUAL SUBMISSION
For both men and women.
There is no such thing as spiritual dominance for human beings.
We are all small in front of God & existence.
RELATIONAL D/S
Men leading their women in their relationship and daily life.
Men knowing just how much it takes to QUALIFY to lead your woman, or anyone really.
Men stepping into Benevolent Leadership and Dominance.
Women coming to terms with what they need from their Man in order to entrust him with their submission and followership.
Women stepping into their Practice & Ritual of Relational Submission.
EROTIC D/S
BDSM Training.
Men become better Erotic Dominants.
Women become better Erotic Submissives & Slaves.
Ownership Dynamics.
Master-Slave Dynamics.
Acquiring Erotic Mastery for both.
OUR CLASSROOM LAB & PROTOCOL
Please come into this week for a fully IMMERSIVE experience. Treat this whole week as one big scene, with its own rules and protocol. I am asking you to abide by this protocol for our entire course container. If this is too much work for you, or too formal for you — this course is not for you. If you neglect or disrespect my container protocol, I reserve the right to throw you out of my class.
Women will refer to their Men by title THROUGHOUT this week — even when you are alone, or in your room, or on class break. A simple ’Sir’ will do. Or you can use ‘Master’, or some other title that you have already established.
Women will speak to their Man as their Dom throughout the week. Women will use submissive speech protocols. You will speak with deference. You will NEVER give your man a direct command or instruction. You will speak to him by:
MAKING A REQUEST
MAKING A SUGGESTION
ASKING FOR PERMISSION
EXPRESSING A DESIRE
EXPRESSING A BOUNDARY
You will also speak this way to EVERY OTHER MAN in the course container.
Men will address their woman by her first name, or a submissive nickname that you have created.
Men will address each other as Mr. [Last Name].
Everyone in class will wear a name tag at all times so that it is easier to address each other correctly.
Everyone will address Om as ‘Sir’.
I will often ask men and women to sit in separate blocks. I will often give men and women different tasks and energetic exercises.
Men are encouraged to dress in black throughout the week. Please dress neatly — in a way that conveys CONTAINMENT.
Women are encouraged to dress in a way that expresses their FEMININE RADIANCE, as well as their EROTIC RADIANCE.
Men should maintain a monk-like discipline over their energies. Be stoic. Be self-contained. Refrain from chit-chat, dissipation, socializing, flirting. Don’t smile unless it is genuine and spontaneous. Don’t be friendly. Be disciplined. Hold your energies close to your core.
Even when the women are beaming in their femininity and radiance, maintain your containment. I will ask the women to deliberately throw their sex at you to test your Self-Containment. Pass the test.
There will be many more daily rules and games we will play along these lines.
Women will make it a PRACTICE throughout this course container to RESPECT MEN & THE MASCULINE.
IF YOU ARE NOT IN WHOLEHEARTED AGREEMENT TO FOLLOW THE ABOVE PROTOCOL, THIS COURSE IS NOT FOR YOU. PLEASE DON’T COME. YOU WILL JUST CREATE MISERY FOR BOTH OF US.
what you will build
The winning circuit.
There is a circuit that, when running cleanly, produces extraordinary relationships between men and women — in their romantic and domestic life, as well as in their erotic life. You will learn to recognize this Winning Circuit — how to build it, and how to repair it when it breaks. This Winning Circuit between men and women has a few different parts, and we will take some time in our conversations to lay it out:
FOR THE MAN
Lead with quality provisioning
See everything that you have to offer your woman as an aspect of your provisioning:
Your Containment.
Your Masculine Embodiment.
Your Leadership.
Your Money & Resources.
Your Future Planning.
Your Erotic Mastery.
Your BDSM skills.
FOR THE WOMAN
Bring Radiance, Receptivity & Reward
Embody your Feminine Radiance.
Embody your Erotic Radiance.
Realize how many other aspects there are to a woman’s Radiance, and how potent your Radiance is.
Truly grasp the architecture of Feminine Receptivity, and that a woman’s receptivity is intertwined in the energies she brings towards her man and the masculine. The foremost of these energies being RESPECT.
Learn to Reward your man correctly for his Provisioning.
the foundation
Strong Self-Esteem is the core of both Gracious Submission and Benevolent Dominance.
To submit, we must have esteem.
To dominate, we must have esteem.
When our esteem collapses, our submission will collapse and become fawning and transactional.
When our esteem collapses, our domination will turn corrupted and consumptive.
A man who cannot kneel before something greater than himself cannot lead with genuine authority.
A woman who submits from fear rather than from full esteem gives nothing worth receiving.
ESTEEM IS BUILT THROUGH MASTERY
Mastery is built through Insight, Repetition, Practice, Discipline, Ritual.
There are no shortcuts here. It has to be in the living.
The conversations and written modules in this course will hopefully give you the INSIGHT. After that, it is up to you to take that Insight, and continue your journey with Repetition, Practice, Discipline & Ritual. These can become the template of a richer and more cohesive way to live and relate with each other.
EROTIC ESTEEM & MASTERY
Even making progress in our Erotic Fulfillment together follows this same trek. Even to improve our Erotic Life, we need Erotic Insight, Erotic Repetition, Erotic Practice, Erotic Discipline and Erotic Ritual.
In our 7 days together, we will daily create this Erotic Momentum in our exercises, scenes and erotic play together. Please come prepared for that.
There will be multiple sessions of erotic play and exercise daily. You will be spending most of your time in class naked or in robes. Bring robes.
UPCOMING RETREATS*
*Course fee is per couple, and includes room & board.